Anger and stress management. Sometimes we respond to stressful situations with strong emotions such as anger and frustration.
Anger creeps in when you feel that something is unfair, something has interrupted your plans, or someone has betrayed your trust, rejected you or criticized you.
Perhaps you have even attacked someone physically when you got angry. Or you might simply stop talking to the person you are angry with or avoid them.
Unfortunately none of these responses work very well. People that you know start to feel uncomfortable when you are around. You are unpredictable, and might have angry outbursts and that can be scary to other people.
Anger is a protection mechanism telling you that the situation is not as it should be. Anger warns you that something is wrong. And you need to change the situation, your reaction or how you think about it.
Do you find yourself getting angry frequently? Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Do your interactions with people often end up in arguments?
- Do you react by talking loudly or yelling when angry?
- Do you feel as though people are often wrong or have a vendetta against you?
- Do you brood angrily about a conversation you had with someone – the other day or even years ago?
- Do you feel tense and on-edge in communications with others?
- Do some people irritate you?
- Do you use your fists to make a statement?
Physical Risks of Anger
If you find that you become angry a lot, you need to work on learning how to control your anger. That’s because constant anger is very stressful. And chronic stress can lead to physical illness.
For example, anger and stress can lead to cardiovascular disorders, cancer and diabetes. Stress can wreak havoc on your health!
Emotions are warning signs that you are stressing out or that your emotions are on overload. You may have noticed some of the warning signs. Do you clench your jaw? Or your fists? Does your heart rate really increase when you get angry?
Get started on a good anger management program , so that your problem can be resolved–once and for all!
Control Your Thoughts to Control Your Anger
Experts say that anger is the result of your thoughts or beliefs. Your thoughts trigger emotions and your emotions influence your actions.
However, did you know that you can change your thoughts or beliefs so that you can change how you feel about a person or situation?
- Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself & others?
- Do you feel as though you are a victim of injustice? Its not fair! Why me?
- Are you quick to make a judgment–without finding out the facts?
People who are angry become energized, as the body responds with a fight or flight response. They feel more powerful and as though they have control over the consequence.
In reality, as you become more angry, you start to lose control!
Anger and Stress Management Tips
When you feel anger rising you can choose your response:
Physical, verbal, nonverbal attack: Such as yelling, swearing, belittling comments, put downs, hitting, slapping, destroying or throwing objects.
Avoidance: Walk away, take time out to calm down, avoid the conversation.
Communicate: Communicate feelings, talk about it quietly, reconcile, choose a happy medium for everyone.
Often our immediate angry response comes from what we learned during our childhood. With conscious effort you can choose to react differently, when you feel angry.
Anger and Stress Management Tips
Here are some additional anger and stress management tips:
1. Take a few deep breaths. This tells your body that you are not in immediate danger & will help you to calm down.
2. Wait until your thoughts are clear. Write down how you are feeling. What your needs are. What you think is “wrong”. What do you feel the other person did that bothered you?
3. Set an appropriate time, for everyone involved, to discuss the situation.
Do not enter into the conversation wanting to “win”. Have the mind-set that you are wanting to resolve it with the best intentions for everyone.
If you feel that you need to work on your anger, consider changing your thought patterns by using a proven self-hypnosis program like Manage Your Anger by Hypnosis Downloads.